Advice for young mothers
I am considered a young mother and a middle-aged mother. I am 35 and have two teenagers. I also have two toddlers. So I have had the opportunity to evaluate both sides of the spectrum. Now, there are some women who were born to be mothers. It doesn’t matter how old they are when they start, though they usually start young. By young, I mean early 18-21. However, they are ready. These women have the patience, the natural nurturing, and the ability to drop everything for their children. They are ready to cook and clean and do all the mom stuff, no matter the cost. I admire these women greatly.
I, like many young mothers, was not like this 16 years ago. I didn’t cook, didn’t like to clean, and wasn’t completely ready to give up my social life. I relied a lot on my mother so I could still have my weekends free to do whatever I wanted. I just wasn’t ready. Fast forward a couple of years and we moved 2 1/2 hours away from my mom. I now had a steady relationship and two children. I grew up a little. I cleaned when I had to and learned to cook the basics; spaghetti, meatloaf, the easy meals. So my two girls grew up eating simple foods, with very little flavor.
Fast forward again, 6 more years. We moved to another new city, however I had another child. The next year, another child. I became a stay at home mom. I also became a true mother, in every meaning of the word. Cleaning became a priority and I was no longer happy with the simple meals. I wanted new exciting recipes with flavor and spice. I wanted new vegetables, new seasonings, and new flavors. But…guess what. My two older girls didn’t like it. It was too much and they wanted simple.
Here is the tip ladies….
Learn to cook now. Cook and experiment with new recipes. Introduce new ingredients and new flavors to your child as early as you can. As much as I hate to admit it, the spaghetti and meat loaf I was fixing them for 6 years was not healthy. It was not the best thing I could have made for them. Yes, it was food. They were fed, but fed simple and quick. They needed variety.
If I am being honest here, you owe it to your children to give them variety. Great meals don’t have to take long. And….they don’t have to be expensive. Just take the effort to learn how to make a simple chicken breast taste amazing. Learn some great side dishes. Make amazing salads. Watch cooking shows while the babies are napping to learn technique. Take notes. Take the time.
I am a recipe cook, plain and simple. I couldn’t create a dish that tasted good if my life depended on it. I just don’t have the palette for that. But I can follow a recipe like no one’s business! The point is to get the recipes out and try them. It doesn’t have to be too fancy, just start slowly and work your way up. The point is to introduce new tastes to your children.
Food is an amazing way to bring people together. Even if it is just those who live in your house. Nothing is more satisfying than working hard to prepare a meal, then seeing your family enjoy it. I still don’t really like to cook, oddly enough. I feel it is my job to feed to my family and I choose to keep it as exciting as I can.
Believe it or not, teaching them to try new foods will teach them to try new experiences and adventures in life. Kids should never be afraid of change. My older girls are. They don’t like change when it comes to food, or anything else they have come across. It is hard for them to adapt. I am to blame.
To wrap it up….
It may be difficult at first to feel the need to cook when your children are very young. However, this is the perfect time to start. Make your own baby food. You can slowly begin to introduce new seasonings in his mashed peas. Then when he is able to eat solid foods, fix him dinner. Get used to fixing meals often. As they get older, you will be cooking a lot more often! Learn Now!
Now, I need some advice!
As some of you know, I am working on turning my weekly meal plans into an Ebook. I really need some critiquing before I begin putting them all together. I need honest opinions about them and what needs tweaking. I, of course, want to make my meal plans work for anyone so it would be helpful to hear what others would like to see. So if you could, please take a few minutes to look over my meal plans. You can begin here: Weekly Meal Plans. After checking them out, please email me with your critiques at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I want brutally honest criticism here. Remember, I don’t know you, so you can tell me how you really feel!! I won’t get mad! This will be so helpful as I put my book together! Thank you in advance, very much!
Have a wonderful day, everyone!